CAUSES FOR THE CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE RELATIONS
One of my friends asked me a question about the marriage relations. This made me write this answer.
Most of the marriage relations are becoming strenuous because of both parties trying to control over others in one way or the other. Either wife or husband wants to dominate the other. This thinking of domination kills or spoils the tenderness of love and affection between them. They forget the greatness of forgiving. They forget the art of listening emphatically. They try to ignore the importance of two way communication. They expect the other party always be dependent and expect to receive orders and instructions. They shouldn’t expect the other party always work hard to please all the way and all the time for him/her. They loose their sensitivity and Integrity being disciplined and responsible all the years.
Marriage is a relation based on mutual confidence but not one-way traffic. In recent times in marriage both parties behave like beggars. They are begging love and affection. They want to win others with power or any other mode or emotional Black mail. They forget the heart and soul of others. These tendencies lead to breaking of relations in the marriage. There is a mutual mistrust is placing in marriages relations. Instead of mistrust, trust has to be established between the parties.
Any command or instruction has to be followed with internal commitment, cheerfulness, and enthusiasm, creativity, willingly without any external supervision or authority. It is the principle has to be applied in every situation in personal, financial and official life. One should not burn the candle at both ends and empty a relation. If one has to be behaving like this, one can’t achieve anything. One can’t win others by shouting or argument or by an emotion. When you expect from others to do a thing for you in any relation, then you have to understand others and their relations with you. You always try to establish healthy relations with deep understanding and with a sense of belongingness.
Dr.KESIRAJU RAMPRASAD
EDUCATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST
EDUCATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST
No person is 100% perfect on the earth. Both wife and husband should accept both negative and postive points in them. They have to understand the weakness of their counterpart and excuse hm/her for their weaknesses. Then, there would be no problem to lead the life cordially and affectionaely. Most of the younger generation do not have any patience to understand and excuse the negative points in their life partners. Hence, their marriage is going on rocks while quarrelling in them and end up in the courts.
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